FINDING YOUR PASSION
I read of a man who stood to speak
At the funeral of a friend
He referred to the dates on her tombstone
From the beginning to the end.
He noted that first came her date of birth
And spoke the following date with tears,
But he said what mattered most of all
Was the dash between those years.
For that dash represents all the time
That she spent alive on earth.
And now only those who loved her
Know what that little line is worth.
For it matters not, how much we own;
The cars, the house, the cash,
What matters is how we live and love
And how we spend our dash.
So think about this long and hard.
Are there things you’d like to change?
For you never know how much time is left,
That can still be rearranged.
If we could just slow down enough
To consider what’s true and real,
And always try to understand
The way other people feel.
And be less quick to anger,
And show appreciation more
And love the people in our lives
Like we’ve never loved before.
If we treat each other with respect,
And more often wear a smile
Remembering that this special dash
Might only last a little while.
So, when your eulogy’s being read
With your life’s actions to rehash
Would you be proud of the things they say
About how you spent your dash?
Life isn’t about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself! The two most important days in your life are the day you are born and the day you find out why!
Your work is going to fill a large part of your life and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.
A while back I bought a new house. When you walk in there is a small sitting room. It is not quite big enough for a living room so I was not sure what to do with it. I have always loved music so I thought to myself, you know what would look good here – a piano. So after thinking about it for a while, I went out a bought a piano. Now I don’t know how to play but that seemed to be only a minor detail at the time. And of course I wanted to share my passion for my music so I wanted to not only learn to play but also have my sons learn to play. To motivate him however, I did not want to ask him to take lessons. I thought to myself this time to use some reverse psychology. I thought, how could I get him to love it? And then it came to me. He really liked the school music teacher. And it just so happened that he gave piano lessons. So I called him up and asked him to come over to give me lessons. I never mentioned a word to my son about it. So when the piano teacher came over and my son saw him giving me lessons, he of course naturally asked if he could take them as well. What a great way to share that passion!
How do you find your Passion in Life? How well do you know yourself? An effective way to determine what you want in life (and also identify what’s
holding you back) is by asking yourself a series of profound self-reflection questions.
Think about things that you absolutely love. Did I ever tell you about the time that I had the chance to play with Joe Perry from Aersosmith and Lou Gramm from Foreigner and Jaimo from the Allman Brothers and Simon Kirk from Bad Company and Steve Morse from Deep Purple? Or the time I climbed Half Dome with my three sons? And then how about the time I took a trip to the Arctic Circle experiencing the bright sunshine after midnight?
Times like these are the reason why we live. And they should also make us wonder why we are doing what we are doing. If you have not found your passion, you should do some soul searching.
To find your passion in life, you've got to be willing to become intimately familiar
with yourself. You must know what drives you, what inspires you, what excites
you, what engages you, what scares you, what you do naturally well, what you
pretend to like but don’t, and what lies you're saying to yourself!
As you become more familiar with yourself, you’ll be able to determine what’s
most important in the limited time you have in a day, a year, and even throughout
your lifetime. In doing this, you can maximize your time doing more of what you
love and less of what you don’t love.
Most of us are so busy reacting to events in our current lives that we don’t allow
the time to examine what’s not working well and why. We certainly don’t take the
time to ask ourselves those deeper, probing questions that unearth our
authenticity and buried longings.
If we really want to find our passion and purpose in life, we need to set aside time
and create space to ask ourselves these tough and challenging questions.
I am now going to ask you a series of questions. You can think about them as I ask or write them as some really require thought and the answers may not be obvious to you.
Please answer the following questions to begin getting clarity about the steps that you can take today that will lead you into a life that you'll be fully passionate about living. It will probably take some time to complete. So feel free to stop the and to write them down or pause the presentation to think about each. The purpose of this is to get away from what you are doing in life and instead focus on what you Want to be doing in life. Remember, it is OK to stop after each question or listen to a few and then pause. I want you to be relaxed and fully present.
If possible, Let’s set the proper mood for this exercise. Make sure you are alone. If you have some mediation music, feel free to turn it on now. It would also be helpful to get some candles going or burn some incense. . OK here we go. First think about these words.
Breathe deep the gathering gloom,
Watch lights fade from every room.
Bedsitter people look back and lament,
Another day's useless energy spent.
Impassioned lovers wrestle as one,
Lonely man cries for love and has none.
New mother picks up and suckles her son,
Senior citizens wish they were young.
Cold hearted orb that rules the night,
Removes the colours from our sight.
Red is grey and yellow white.
But we decide which is right.
And which is an illusion?
Qu 1. What areas of your life are currently working well for you — what do you find
fulfilling, meaningful, enjoyable, and important?
Qu 2. What areas of your life are current not working well for you — what makes
you stressed out and anxious. What wastes your time or drains you?
Qu 3. If you were financially secure and didn’t need a salary, how would you
spend your time?
Qu 4. What are some childhood interests or dreams you never were able to
explore fully, but still find intriguing?
Qu 5. If you could pick three things that you would like to be remembered for
after you die - what would they be?
Qu 6. Is there someone in your life or your past whose life and work inspires and
excites you? Why?
Qu 7. What skills or talents do you have that you are passionate about using?
Qu 8. What skills or talents do you have that you are NOT passionate about
Qu 9. Consider a previous or current job - what specific activities have you done
that you enjoy and find engaging?
Qu 10. Consider a previous or current job - what specific activities have you
done that you dislike and never want to do again?
Qu 11. During an average week, how much of your time is spent doing things
you dislike or that you feel waste your time?
Qu 12. What are your top 5 most prominent core values? (If you're unsure about
how to answer this question, come back to it after the next section in the course)
Qu 13. How do your life and work currently reflect those values?
Qu 14. Which of your top values are you ignoring or not giving enough attention?
Qu 15. How are you currently living outside of your own integrity?
Qu 16. What lies are you currently telling yourself and others about who you
are, what’s important to you and what you're passionate about?
Qu 17. What is preventing you from pursuing your primary passion in life?
Qu 18. What beliefs do you have about yourself and your ability to succeed in
pursuing your main passion in life?
Qu 19. How have your limiting beliefs and fears held you back from finding or
pursuing your main passion in the past?
Qu 20. What credible evidence do you have to suggest that your fears or
limiting beliefs that are holding you back are true?
Qu 21. If there is evidence that your fears or limiting beliefs might come to pass,
is the risk significant enough to prevent you from going after your passion?
Qu 22. Can you tolerate some risk and uncertainty in relation to finding your
passion, and if so, how much?
Qu 23.What do you prioritise over pursuing your main passion in life? (Your
income? Your job? Your lifestyle? Your home? The opinion of others?)
Qu 24. What is the main concern that's holding you back from committing to
pursuing your primary passion in life?
Qu 25. What specific actions can you take to reduce and manage this fear?
Qu 26. Is there anyone in your life who is preventing you from pursuing your
passion? Who are they and how are they holding you back?
Qu 27. How could you communicate with this person (or people) to either gain
their support or get them to step out of the way?
Qu 28. Are you willing to disengage from people who are undermining your
ability to pursue your passion in life? If not, why not?
Qu 29. Do any people close to you have genuine concerns about your life
passion or your ideas? How can you address and overcome these?
Qu 30. What hobbies or interests have you had in the last few years that intriguee you and that you might consider pursuing as a life passion?
Qu 31. Are you willing to spend time pursuing these interests to learn more —
by volunteering, part-time work, interning, finding a mentor, etc.?
Qu 32. If you think you know what your passion might be, what concrete work
have you done to learn more about it and actually experience it? What are you
willing to do to better yourself in this area?
Qu 33. Do you have enough savings to allow you to live for six months during a
job transition or while you search for (or pursue) your passion?
Qu 34. What can you do to create a cushion of savings if you don’t have any?
Qu 35. What is the minimal salary that you can afford to live on?
Qu 36. Would you be willing to make cut backs in your lifestyle in order to
follow your passion?
Qu 37. What is the worst thing that could happen if you decided to commit fully
to pursuing your passion? Could you live with this?
Qu 38. What is the likelihood of this worst thing actually happening (if you were
to commit yourself fully 100%)?
Qu 39. What would your ideal day look like if you were doing what you love?
Qu 40. What are the things that you’d really like to achieve or accomplish with
your life before you die?
Qu 41. To date, what steps have you taken towards making these things
Qu 42. Would you be willing to work in a less-than-passionate job to pursue
your passion outside of work or as a part-time job?
Qu 43. Imagine you woke up nearly every day feeling happy, fulfilled, and
content about your life and work - how would that impact you physically,
mentally, emotionally, in your relationships, and also in your self-confidence?
Qu 44. How has living a less-than-passionate life affected you? Give specific
Qu 45. What life achievement would make you feel proud of yourself?
Qu 46. How do you live, act, or behave in a way that isn’t really you?
Qu 47. If you had the chance to start fresh all over again with your life, your
relationships, and your career, what would you do differently?
Qu 48. Can you go back for a “re-do” on any of these things? If you answer “no,”
are you 100% sure?
Qu 49. If you live to age 80, how many days do you have left to live? (80 minus
your current age multiplied by 365)
Qu 50. How many of those days are you willing to live disliking any aspect of
your life? For example, your work, your relationships or even yourself?
OK, now let's take a deep breath. What practical next steps can we take toward pursing your passions and creating a life that would be more meaningful, purpose driven and fulfilling?
Take some time to think about these questions. And I will see you again in our next session of Blueprint for success. So this is Greg from Platinum Method Coaching. If you have any questions or comments, you can email me at Greg@PlatinumMethodCoaching.
Until next time, remember, “Live in the sunshine, swim the sea, drink the wild air ! The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched, they must be felt with the heart!